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Capture Her Heart with Nonsense and Utter Stupidity

Hey Friend.

So check it out. I've been thinking a lot lately about what makes a successful pickup. What I mean by that is: what are the common threads in every successful approach I've done?

As I said, I thought about this a lot. Then I thought some more. Was it proper execution of fundamentals? Yeah, but that sort of goes without saying. Was it some inner game secret? Nah, too ephemeral, I'm looking for something concrete.

Eventually, I just got pissed off and threw the television out the front window.

"Screw all this," I thought, "This is too much thinking."

That's when it hit me. The common thread to all my successful pickups:

ABSENCE OF THOUGHT.

That's right. No thinking.

In all of my most spectacular successes, I was living completely in the moment, without concern for "the next move" or "what to say" or any of this type of stuff.

In all of those cases, I was able to just LET GO and let the training take over. I put faith in my abilities and my skills, and let them guide me, like Luke Skywalker turning off his computer controls as he makes his assault on the Death Star.

Ok, that's gonna be the last Star Wars reference you EVER see in this newsletter. BTW, side note: Star Wars references are definitely high ranking in the Top Ten Ways To Kill A Pickup. You've been warned!

The point is, you must be present in the moment at all times. On paper, you can plot out the stages of a pick-up and plan everything out, it seems so black and white. But in the field, it's a different story entirely.

In the field, things are coming at you from all directions, and they're coming at you very quickly. Split-second response time is necessary, and there's no way you're gonna be able to pull that off if you're somewhere in the back of your own head, looking at a pie chart.

This is all very Zen, no?

Anyway, I let this roll around in my head for a while. I didn't THINK about it, mind you, I just let it sort of fester in my brain until it crystalized. This is what I was left with:

Thinking is bad. Nonsense and utter stupidity are good.

This, then, is my new "method" which I wholeheartedly endorse: nonsense and utter stupidity.

Typically, I wouldn't bother to elaborate on this, as the very act of doing so would go against the tenets of the Nonsense and Utter Stupidity philosophy. But I'll make an exception for you, {!name}, cause you my homie.

Now, I know you're probably saying, "Ok Jeff, I get it. It's important to be present in the moment during a social interaction." The thing is, it goes far deeper than that. While that's all esoteric and everything, there are actually some ways to practically apply this philosophy, and THAT'S what I'm gonna explain right here.

First of all, what is the number one reason that guys fail at pickup?

They don't understand how attraction works. Specifically, they think that LOGIC has something to do with attraction, when in fact it has almost NOTHING to do with it.

The process of attraction is predicated almost entirely on EMOTION.

THIS is the reason most guys fail. They may work hard to buy a sports car and take girls to dinner, thinking that it will impress them and thus cause them to become attracted to them.

The problem is, while expensive dinner and luxury cars are very nice things, they are LOGICAL things, not emotional. While these things may contribute to YOUR happiness and are great in that respect, they have nothing to do with the process of attraction.

In fact, by bragging about having such things, it can have the opposite of the desired effect, as doing so sub communicates NEEDINESS, which is perhaps the most undesireable quality of all.

This over-reliance on logic is the GAPING hole in most guys' game that you can drive a Mack truck through.

This is why I can shut down most guys so easily. Let's say my buddy is in a mixed set (a set with both guys and girls) and there's some guy in it that's interfering, trying to control the set and game the girls.

What do I do? Simple.

I roll in and start bombarding the guy with logical questions, in a friendly manner.

What happens is the guy will engage me in this BORING LOGICAL conversation. Any attraction he has built with the girl starts to plummet immediately. The beauty part is, he doesn't even realize what's happening, as it all seems like an innocuous attempt by a boring yet friendly guy (me) to be social.

Meanwhile, my wingman swoops in and steals all the attraction for himself as he games up the target.

This is made possible by guys' ignorance of how the process of attraction works. Their assumption that it is based on logic is their weakness.

Let me illustrate for you yet another practical application of the Nonsense and Utter Stupidity school of 'thought'.

Many times, when you approach a girl, she will throw various 'tests' your way over the course of the interaction as a way to screen out undesireables.

This is a GOOD thing. If a chick throws these tests your way, it means that she's viewing you as a POTENTIAL sex partner. If you were a kid or a 90 year old geezer, she wouldn't even think to do this, so if you

These tests can take many forms. They can be pointed inquiries ("Do you say that to all the girls?"), they can be blatant insults ("Oh my god, your shirt is so lame!").

Your response to these tests will determine your success or failure. With that in mind, you would do well to really think about your responses, right?

BZZZZT WRONG!!!

Remember, attraction is all about emotions. So when a girl busts your balls, in many ways, it's an attempt to get you to go logical.

See, girls KNOW that if you get them emotional, they will likely sleep with you. So they attempt to put the BRAKES on the process by going logical. If you take the bait, you're sunk. Mind you, very little of this is taking place on a conscious level in the chick's head.

If a girl tests you and starts getting all pissy, what do you do?

CHANGE HER MOOD, NOT HER MIND.

Instead of addressing the test in a logical manner and getting sucked into that trap, bust out some nonsense. Ignore the comment, stick out your tongue and tickle her.

Bust out some utter stupidity. Reply with some bizarre non sequiter that has nothing whatsoever to do with what she said.

Her: "Why did you say that? That's totally offensive!"

Me: "Yeah... dude, my friend eats LEMONS whole, isn't that weird? Like, we're at lunch the other day, and she just picks up this lemon, and eats it like it was an orange. Weird! Don't you think that would damage the enamel on her teeth or something?"

Her: "Uhh... yeah, that's weird... what was I saying?"

The power of utter stupidity cannot be overstated.

Sometimes, I'll use it to keep the girls in state when the energy in the interaction is flagging.

Energy's going down, and no attract material immediately springs to mind? Time for some gibberish that makes no sense! I jump into the air with a spinning uppercut and scream, "HAAAARRRRRUUUKEN!!" The chicks start laughing and I roll back into my regularly scheduled game.

Let's say I'm pulling some girl back to Club Jeffy (my euphemism for my house) and she's getting bored in the cab. Time to rock the stupidity! I start calling her "a mischievious munchkin in the night" and making kitty cat and cow noises. I keep this up for the duration of the ride home, while she's shrieking and giggling the whole way.

Try this stuff out. It is extremely powerful. One warning though, you must be CONGRUENT if you're gonna pull this stuff off. If you start making weird noises, but you're thinking, "God, I must sound like a buffoon," well, guess what? She's probably going to agree with that sentiment.

Another great area to apply the concepts of Nonsense and Utter Stupidity is the approach.

So many times, guys shoot themselves in the foot before they even approach, because of approach anxiety.

What happens is, they see the hot girl they want, then pause. They start to cycle through different scenarios in their head. What's the best opener? No, that one will sound stupid. What if she thinks I'm lame? What if that guy is her boyfriend? Etc. etc.

Finally, if she hasn't left by this point, they muster up the courage to approach. The problem is, now their opener sounds totally stilted and contrived because of all this internal pollution floating around in their head.

Enter the Stupidity.

When you see that girl, KILL ALL THOUGHTS.

You just can't afford to think in these situations. Your brain can only process so much, you need to focus all your energy in the moment and JUST GO. Take a deep breath and go. There's no guarantee that you'll succeed, but without all that junk in your head tainting the broadcast, you're much more likely to sub communicate attractive qualities and respond to things in the correct way.

Be here now, as the old 60's head trip gurus used to say.

Put faith in your training, and let the pieces fall into place.

Of course, before you can put faith in your training, you have GET that training. And there are several ways you can go about this.

In my opinion, it's important to have a coach, to show you the finer points, the nuances, that just can't be conveyed in black and white print.

As I said above, when I first decided to make that change and get this part of my life HANDLED, I floundered around at it for years without much success.

*YEARS!*

It wasn't until I met up with some truly gifted individuals in person that my game started to take off by leaps and bounds.

The bottom line?

I'm sure, given enough time, I would have eventually figured most (MOST!) of this stuff out on my own. But as it turns out that wasn't necessary.

Because I found a shortcut.

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- Jim R., Minneapolis, MN

This kind of professional, objective advice isn't available anywhere else. This has never been done before.

Let me ask you this: if you had a giant, oozing boil on your neck, you wouldn't try to cut it off at home with a butter knife, would you?

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The fact of the matter is, our live programs are, bar none, the best and fastest way to upgrade your game to the next level.

This is the stuff that has been developed through years of work in the field, 7 nights a week and is empirically verifiable as the best, most efficient system out there when it comes to pulling the hottest ass at will.

If you're comfortable with spending an indeterminate number of years of your all-too-short life languishing in "pick-up purgatory", that's fine. Delete this email and forget all about it.

But if you want to take charge of your love life and see massive improvements in WEEKS, not years, follow that impulse and sign up for a live program TODAY! For more information and a complete program listing, visit:

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All right, it's time to wrap things up. In the interest of keeping my stupidity honed to a dull edge, I'm going to watch several hours of network television prior to going out.

Talk to you in a few days.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS

PS...Do you have any questions or success stories that you'd like to see in this newsletter? Keep it brief, email them to me at jlaix@realsocialdynamics.com and I'll answer them personally. I'll provide the solution to any challenge you can possibly put to me. Remember: even if an obstacle seems "big" to you, our team has probably faced it hundreds of times, so we can solve
it in a SNAP.

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